Coaching Corner

One of the biggest myths is when you tell your partner you love then and that love is translated in the bedroom. Honestly, sometimes it doesn't translate 100% to your sex life. Harboring insecurities about yourself is one thing, but when  those insecurities effect your partner it's a completely different thing. Sex with your partner that you're  IN LOVE with, not just LOVE  ,is supposed to be a moment that you connect emotional/physically with your mind and body. Sometimes people are in their own minds about what's going on in the relationship or on the world. In that moment, they are not focusing all their attention on their partner. Sex typically happens in most relationships, but consider how often being made love to happens in your relationship. That's a different level of intimacy that takes your intimate relationship from good to great because the focus, in that moment, is totally about your partner's needs and not your own. Focusing more on c...

Sometimes we have a very difficult time setting boundaries for ourselves and for others in our lives. Setting your personal boundaries is one thing, but sticking to the boundaries you set is something totally different. Learning to secure the boundaries you set for yourself and the people in your life has to be a priority for you. Your peace of mind, safety, and your way of life is important to you. When you feel that your emotional or physical boundaries have been crossed, it may cause you some unwelcome anxiety. If you tell the people in your life that they have to treat you a specific way, then its up to you to enforce your personal boundary. Sometimes people will test your boundaries intentionally or unintentionally to get a reaction from you. That's why it's important to know that you are in control of you and your boundaries. If people choose to break your boundaries, have the conversation with them and tell them that boundaries must be respected. If boundarie...

In a relationship, it's easy to get spending time together and quality connection time confused. Just because you are around your partner or doing errands with them doesn't count as quality connection time. Quality Connection Time would involve you and your partner being in a space where you can be emotionally intimate with them. Emotional intimacy is when you're in a space with your partner and you both feel safe enough to express what's on your mind without fear of judgement. Most couples don't reach that level of intimacy because pride, ego, emotional maturity or your relationship priorities get in the way of maintaining that connection with your partner. Most couples start as friends, progress to partners then to lovers. To maintain those connections with your partner you need regular consistent maintenance just like you maintain your vehicle. Your partner wants and needs your attention on all levels to feel whole in the relationship. With this in mind, the next...