Coaching Corner

When you hear the word leader, what meanings comes to mind for you???? Whether you 're a leader at a small business or a large company, being a leader is a hard job. Now please don't get the word leader confused with being a boss. Those definitions are two different things and they mean two different things for the people who are in those positions. A boss by definition is" a person in charge of a worker or organization." A leader is" the person who leads or commands a group, organization, or country." When you look at those two things in relation to what your title is now, being in charge is very difficult. The main point to the story is strive everyday to become a great leader no matter where you work at. When you are a great leader, it encourages others to be great, and reach their full potential. Good leaders sometimes make excuses, Great leaders find ways to solve problems. Be the leader you can be and be the leader your people need you to be. Thank you

If you didn't know, life is always about the moments that we experience daily. These moments we experience are priceless and sometimes memorable. It's like when someone you love has a birthday or special day that you move everything in your schedule to be with them that day. There are also moments that you create and moments that are created for you. Each moment in life you have is a once in a life time moment. You should make sure you are aware of those moments and try your best to live in that moment. Experience it and make it memorable for yourself. Life is full of moments, so enjoy life and be happy doing so. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Vision Board, do you have one??? You should because it can provide you with clear goals for your future. A vision board is more than just something you write down one time and than place in a corner. It is a combination of all of your hopes, dreams and prayers written down for you to see. Speaking of prayer, it will take alot of consistent prayer and faith to manifest your vision. Despite what this world throws at you, You must stay consistent and driven by your vision for your life. Review your board, note book or tablet often along with praying daily for these visions to come true for you, if it is His will. Get up everyday thankful and motivated to go out to achieve your vision. If you do that, you will see in a year's time how many of your visions came to pass.   Thank you  jdwilliamscoaching

Their is no age limit to how much wisdom a person could have. Now being wise and being educated is two different things. Being wise is something that you are born with and develops over time. Being educated is more of being taught by someone or yourself to learn about subject matters. Sometimes it's easy for adults to say that people that are younger than them are not wise because of their age. Sometimes you will find that being wise does not have an age limit and that sometimes the best wisdom can come from someone younger. Being wise and sharing your wisdom with others is your gift. Helping others with your wisdom can be freeing and can be a blessing to others around you. In life don't be afraid to embrace your wisdom. You are smarter and wiser than you think. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Discovering your purpose in life is not as easy as you would think. It takes some time and alot of patience to achieve. The word purpose is a powerful word which means "the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists". Finding your purpose will help you realize who you truly are and help you find out who you are meant to be. To be honest, their is no age limit to finding your purpose. The main thing is when you do finally realize what your purpose is and what your meant to be, you will realize your true calling.  thank you, jdwilliamscoachingandconsulting

Is the person your with down for you? That is a question you should truly consider. If your dating or in a relationship, finding out if that person is with you no matter what is important. When a person is truly with you, they don't care what you have or what you do. They would only care about who you are to them in their life. They would not worry about going out, buying new things, or going on expensive trips. They will only be concerned about spending time with you anywhere you are. The simple presence of your company is enough for them to make them happy. When you find that person that will live in a box with you if they had to, you have really found the one. When a person says that they would live in a box with you and really mean it, that gives you a special feeling. There are not too many people out there that are truly down for you and not just down for material things of this world. So many people are materialistic and are all about things and not about people. Finding som

Accepting Ownership of problems that exist in a relationship is the hardest thing to do for some people. No one wants to admit that they are wrong for something that happened in the relationship. That's one of the biggest things that could cause a problem in a relationship.  If no one wants to admits fault, how do you work towards a resolution. Issues not addressed quickly lead to bigger issues down the line because the issue that started the chain of events wasn't address. There is nothing wrong with owning your wrongdoings in a relationship. If the person really knows you and respects you, they will accept your apology. They will not continue to punish you for whatever thing that was done wrong. The thing about an apology is that the issue can't keep happening over and over again. If it does, it makes the other person believe that you are not serious about change. Be consistent in fixing whatever went wrong and communicate when things may be headed back to a bad direction

These days it is easy for man to fall for a cute smile and nice body. With the way that people are pertraded today in society, it only makes it easier for someone to meet the wrong person. It all boils down to the connection that you have with someone new. My advice is try loving their mind first and there body second. When you try loving their mind first, you will find out more about the person that you may like or cause you to run away quickly. It gives you the opportunity to make a deeper connection than just the physical. Loving a person's mind these days could be a challenge because everyone likes something good to look at. That is a preference that both men and women are guilty of from time to time. Although this is an issue, challenge yourself to be better than most people. Challenge yourself to love their mind and you will find out if that person is worth your time or not. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

If you've every had those friend's in life that really seem like family, you truly are blessed. It is hard these days to find and keep friends around that you can trust. These days most people are about their  own problems and don't want to deal with yours. That's why if you are lucky enough to have those types of friends in your life, appreciate them for being there for you. With your family being your family, good friends are hard to come by. If you have those friend's, check on them with a phone call or text. Stop by there house to see them and hang out with them. Treat them like your family if they are your friend not an associate. A friend and an associate are two different people to you. A friend will always have your back no matter what and an associate will have your back when it is convenient for them. So remember to choose carefully who you let into your life because good friends are hard to come by. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

This holiday season be thankful for the many blessings that God has provided for you. Sometimes in life we lose sight of the things that really matter in our lives like family and friends. We tend to foucs on jobs and other things that are less important when you look at the big picture of life. It is easy to forget that there are people out there that want what you have and for some people we complain about what you don't have. This holiday season take an account of the many blessings that you have in your life because it could always be worse. Everyone is blessed in there life right now so take a moment today to thank God for what you have and also thank him for what you don't have. Have a great day and a happy holiday. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

When you have an enduring spirit nothing can stop you. In life there are things that test you mentally, physically and emotionally everyday. That's when your enduring spirit steps in and pushes you forward. Your enduring spirit comes from God and he knows your heart. In those times where you think you can't go on, pray and push forward. You will find that you have more endurance than you thought. Thank you jdw illiamscoaching  

The term campfire is a saying used when two people meet up to resolution conflicts. Those conflicts could be of a personal or business related matters, just depends on the situation. When you host a campfire, it has to be in a place of comfort for both parties. The biggest thing is that you want to resolve any issues productively. You want to the outcome to be lasting and for most negative feelings to be squashed. Start by stating the issue one at a time, listening to what the other person is saying. Listen with an open mind because if your truly trying to resolve an issue, don't take anything said too personal. Take what is said with a grain of salt and push for the best outcome possible. Remember that you are an adult and are capable of handling anything thrown at you. Don't waste your time with a campfire if you like arguing with people. A campfire is for serious people who want to resolve issues and be a better person. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

In that moment between being in love and experiencing lose, there is a space. In that moment between finding a job and losing a job, there is a space. In that moment of your first date and your future proposal, there is a space. In that moment between having that argument and making up, there is a space. That space is your opportunity to decide what your next move will be. If you don't pay attention, that space will close quickly and your opportunity is gone. In that moment, where you have that opportunity to do what you want, take the time to reflect on who you are. Take that moment to also reflect on who you want to be. That person I would say is the better version of yourself. When you look to be that person consistently, doors will start opening for you. Your mood will change and you will start feeling better than ever. In that moment use that space to explore your potential of who you can become. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

The Formula is a recipe some people use to maintain a healthy relationship. The word recipe by definition means "a set of instructions for preparing a particular dish, including a list of the ingredients required." Now when you think of what you do in your relationship to maintain happiness, that is your recipe. No one's recipe for maintaining their relationship is the same and what you do for your partner has to be consistent. In order to create the perfect dish in your relationship, practice consistent behavior daily. The little things in a relationship goes a long way to a perfect dish. I can not tell you the recipe that will work for you, but what I can say is be consistent. Following a winning recipe will lead to a long, happy relationship that is mutually beneficial to both parties.  Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

What is your approach to dating someone new? The approach you use sets the stage for how the other person will view you throughout that date. Being too eager or aggressive is never a good idea starting off. Even if the other person is being forward, don't let that stop you from getting to know them. If you are being patient in the process of listening to the other person, they will subconsciously tell you everthing you want to know. Half of getting to know someone new is the approach you use from the start. Having the right approach will eventually lead you to something real with someone. Having the wrong approach will possibly lead you  to a one night stand, no second date and becoming a serial dater. A serial dater is someone who just can not seem to get it right with their dating choices. Try to avoid those pitfalls of dating and use the right approach. Thank you  jdwilliamscoaching

Wife vs. Fantasy is based on the idea that every real man has this idea of what they want there future wife to be. Now this idea could be Fantasy or Wifey, you just have to determine what is true. Some men may want there wife to be a stay at home wife or some men may prefer there wife to work multiple jobs. Some men may want there wife to be some kind of sex machine or some men may require there wife to role play. Whatever your requirements are for your future mate, remember the difference between what is Fantasy vs. Wife. Some women may not be able to or are willing to be this fantasy that is created in the mind. The truth is you can make your relationship whatever you want it to be if you treat the other person right. Respect one another and you will soon find out that your Fantasy vs. Wife is your reality with your wife. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Building a better you is a process and it is not going to happen over night. If this is your goal be consistent in your goal. There are so many things in life that will try to stop you from being better. Daily you will face obstacles that will try to stop you but in those moments being consistent will turn the tide. Focus on your goal of being better in your life. If your goal is becoming more fit, becoming more educated, or whatever your path is be consistent. Though faith and being consistent you will achieve your goal. That saying it's a marathon not a sprint is a true statement. Go forth and build a better you. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

There is a reason you have those people in your life that hate seeing you happy. They love to see you fail and celebrate when you do. They offer no encouragement or help in making you feel better. They are just bystanders watching the show. The best advice is to let them hate because as long as you have GOD in your life, you are winning. He will not let you fail for long and your success is closer than you think. When you succeed do not forget who help you and as for your haters. Your success will hurt them more than any words or fist will hurt them. Let them hate and leave the rest to GOD. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Are you that prototype? That is the question most men who are ready to be committed are asking themselves. These days it is kind of hard to tell because most woman think guys are only looking for that one thing(sex). The real men out there are looking for more than sex, there looking for that prototype. He's looking for that woman who is about her business but can hold the house down. He needs a woman who is not afraid to share her feelings and who will openly listens when he shares his feelings. A woman that gives respect/loyalty and can receive respect/loyalty in return.  He wants a women who knows how to please her man and the man return the favor. Are you that prototype?? Ask yourself that before you consider entering a relationship with a real man that is ready for relationship. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Most women and men are looking for someone on their level. That level may be financial, spiritual, physical or mental. Whatever the level you are expecting your mate to be on, most people are looking for one of those. I find if you meet someone that is on your level, the relationship tends to run smoother. Your vibe with them is more authentic and your able to be more open with your thoughts. No matter what level you're on, be patient in the process of meeting someone new. The level a person is on does not define the person, but it does help you determine if that person is right for you. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Listening is very important in dating and in a relationship. Listening to the other person allows you to hear the things that they are not directly telling you. Listening to the other person is important to find out if there are any issues that have to be addressed or to identify any issues on the horizon. When you are truly listening to the other person, if they're smart they know you are listening. When a person knows you are listening that only increases their interest in talking to you. People tend to share more of themselves if they feel comfortable with you. In dating and in a relationship, making your partner comfortable when talking to you is key to successfully listening. When you do this, the results of listening will be truly amazing. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Having passion in your relationship is key to building a better connection. Having passion for one another mentality and physically increases your bond. It allows you to have a more deeper, meaningful conversations with one another. The conversations will become effortless and your physical connection will build. Having passion for one another will intensify your ability to please your partner. When communication is consistent with your partner, the passion for one another builds something in your relationship that no one can break. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

There are several definitions of what people think a good man is or should be. To be honest, most woman don't believe that there are any good men left out there. That's really why every year you see the Father's Day displays in stores get smaller and smaller. The whole world has lost hope in those good men out their. I'm here to tell you my definition of what a good man is. A good man will provide for you financially, as well as, emotionally. He will be there in your good days and especially the bad days. He will cater to your physical needs and make sure you are satisfied. He will be committed to only you and see no other women but you. He will love you unconditionally with your flaws and all you are. This is the definition of good man, but the reality is you may not get all these things. You have to decide what your deal breakers are for the person you chose to be with. Once you figure that out, work with your man to help him become the man he is meant to

Finding Mr./Mrs. Right has been the dream for so many people for as long as anyone can remember. Finding that person could almost be like winning the lottery or finding a 4 leaf clover. You never know when that day will happen for you or if it ever will. The thing that I have learned about finding this person is to not look for them. This mysterious person will one day find you when you least expect it. The other thing is the person you meet may not be a perfect person and has some flaws. Sometimes your flaws and their flaws work together. Sometimes they don't work but being patient in the process of getting to know someone is key. To be honest, I don't think there is a such person as Mr./Mrs. Right. I believe that you will one day meet the right person for you. When you do meet them, you will accept their flaws and all they are. The beautiful thing about that is they will also accept your flaws and all you are. That is Mr./Mrs. Right for you. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Many people define success in different ways. To some it could be the amount of money you have, the amount of material items you have or just your status in life. Success could also look like meeting the person you have chosen to spend your life with. No matter what success in life looks like to you, remember anything worth having is going to require efford. The more efford you put into your life, career or relationship the better results you will gain from it. Success in life takes alot of time, patience and consistent efford to achieve. But once you reach your goal, be thankful for the journey and enjoy what comes next for you. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Love yourself more than others love you is a true statement. Loving yourself first allows you the ability to love others freely. What I mean by that is that you can't ever make someone else happy if your not happy. Doing things that make you happy daily or weekly is a key to your overall well-being. Loving yourself doesn't mean that you are being selfish about loving someone else. It just means that you are doing everything you can to grow your love and better yourself. Love yourself first and you will see that your life will be better because of it. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Knowing what you want in a potential mate is different for everybody. Knowing that thing that your looking for in a mate is very important. When dating life is simple, you see something you like in a person and you explore what that feeling is. If you don't like what you find, you don't have to deal with it. When you're looking for a life mate that comes in the stages dating,proposal and marriage. How you handle those stages has a direct effect on how your life will be with that person. The first stage is critical to finding out if that person is right for you. If you like a person right away, that's a sign that you see potential in this person being more than just a friend for you. The key is patience and listening. If you support them and are supported by them in the beginning, that builds a foundation for the future. Remember, the key is being consistent in your action by both parties. It is easy to be consistent in the beginning but harder to keep it going if you

When things go wrong in your life some people find it hard not to complain about there situation. Talking to someone is the quickest way to voice your opinion but why complain is the question. Complaining about a situation that has happened in your life doesn't slove the situation that has went wrong. Complaining about the situation doesn't help you feel better because once your done the situation may still be present. Turn your complaint or frustration into motivation to slove the issue at hand. If you're unhappy with your job, work towards getting a better job. If you're unhappy about your relationship, work towards fixing you're relationship. Whatever your issue is in life, if you can change the situation, change it. If you can't change it, pray about it and move forward. Most sitituations in life don't get better unless you work towards them getting better. Always put in your work first and let God do the rest. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Have you ever thought about why people cheat on there mate? That is the question that people ask themselves when they hear that someone they know has cheated. I believe that men and women cheat with no one cheating more or less than the other. Cheating is cheating no matter which partner does it first. The people that cheat usually does this for selfish reasons that can be fixed if both parties are willing to work on the issues. Talking about your needs with you partner is the easiest way to avoid cheating but even then, you may have those people that may cheat anyway. Those people basically have made the choice that they don't want to be committed anymore. If that decision has been made, the other person has to decide if they want to stay or go. Most of the time, if people cheat once, it may happen again if that same issue is still present. Long story short, people do cheat for selfish reasons but not everyone cheats. If you're in a relationship, worry about your relationship

It is nothing wrong with chasing your dreams. Dreams can easily turn into your new reality if you work hard enough. That is the key to success hard work, prayer and patience. Following those tools can get you to the top, but they will not keep you there. Consistency will if you push yourself daily towards your dreams. Doing little things daily to prepare yourself for your future dreams goes a long way. Use these tools and chase your dreams with all your heart. Enjoy the journey. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Feeling good about yourself has no age limit. Feeling good is a Vibe, it's something that you reflect out into the world. When you feel good, your positive energy can help others feel good as well. You should always look for ways to make yourself happy. Do not rely on others to produce your happiness in relationships as well as in life. Just remember if your happy your relationship is happy. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Growing pains can happen when you realize that you have out grown some of the people in your circle. It's ok when that happens because it means that you are headed towards the future. You can try to bring your circle with you but they must be ready to grow. You can't change an adult, so if there not ready it's  ok. The important thing is your growth and your future goals. Don't be afraid to grow past your current situation because it only leads to a brighter future. Thank you  jdwilliamscoaching

Putting good vibes into the universe is always a great thing. No matter how bad your day is going try to smile or laugh. Good vibes help you see past negitive people and negitive events in your life. Good vibes help you overcome bad days and turn them into good days. Good vibes can help you meet that next person or help you improve the relationship you're in now. All in all good vibes from you can do wonders for your life. Be positive and keep the faith. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Living your dreams is the goal for many people in this life. People see these celebrities going to these different places and all along there are people wishing that was them. What you have to realize is that can be you. Living your dreams is possible for anyone that is willing to put forth some effort. That means studying, working, practicing and doing whatever it takes to move towards your dream. Not everyone's dream is the same and not everyone's path to there dream is the same. The one thing that is the same is the amount of effort and work that has to be present to reach your dream. If you have a dream, work hard to reach it and dont let people tell you that you can't done. You can do anything you put your mind, body and spirit into accomplishing. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Staying true to who you are as an individual is very important when you are dating or in a relationship. The person you are defines how the other person will see you as a couple. It is never a good idea to change who you are to please the other person. The other person must understand that you are who you are and accept it. This also goes the other way, where you have to accept the other person for who they are. If each person accepts each other's faults and all, just think of how wonderful your relationship would be. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Finding forgiveness in the ones who have wronged you in your past is sometimes the hardest thing to do. Depending on the severity of how much you were hurt, it could take you longer to heal. The thing about forgiveness is that your not only forgiving the person that hurt you but you're also forgiving yourself for being hurt. This process takes time and effort to achieve. You must know that forgiveness is possible if you want it to be. You have to be able to find a way to move forward because that is the only way that you will heal yourself. You do this by acknowledging how you were hurt, and than create a plan for healing. Most plans for healing are going to be specific to the individual. Whether that's social activities, church or self reflection, finding things to rebuild who you are as an individual helps you. Just know that forgiveness and healing takes time but it is definitely possible. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Finding new love is not as easy as most people would think. It takes time, prayer and patience to achieve this goal. There is no formula to finding new love, just a path that you walk down with your potential mate. The best advice for people who are new to this path is to take your new journey slow. Trying to speed through this path could lead to mistakes being made and ending up with the right person at the wrong time. What I mean by the right person at the wrong time is sometimes we are not ready emotional or physically to receive that person. That decision could lead to some problems down the line with building a connection with that person.  So, the the best advice would be to make sure you work on yourself first and than work towards your new love second. You will find when you meet that next person, your mind, body and spirit will be ready to receive them. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

Motivation is a word we use to describe that thing that pushes us to achieve specific actions. What motivates you ??? What is that person, place, or goal that motivates you to push forward? Ask yourself that question everyday and let the answer encourage you to chase your dreams. Life is full of situations that will block you from achieving the things that motivate you. My advice is to not let these situations stop you from pushing towards your goals. Remember what motivates you as you go thoughout your day and use that thought to push yourself harder. If you do that, one day you realize with prayer, patience and motivation, ANYTHING is possible. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

When you set a goal in your mind, how do  you plan to achieve your goal? That is the number one question you should ask yourself when you are planning your next steps. Sometimes when you have dreams and goals, starting the process to make them reality can be scary.  It's the whole not knowing if it will work out or not that is the fear. What you have to realize is not going for your goals is the biggest failure. You must realize that you are alot stronger than you believe and that you can do all things with the help of the Lord that strengthens you. So, don't worry about the fears you may have, just make a plan and execute your plan. Believe in your goals and wake everyday chasing it. You will find out one day that you have succeed. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

I believe finding your mate comes down to you knowing what you want out of life for yourself. If you don't know what you want or don't want, how do you expect to build something with someone else. When you meet someone, being open about what you are looking for isn't a bad topic of conversation, but I would also say that there is a time and place for everything. Communication is big when your dating or when your in a relationship because it is the foundation of a lasting relationship. So, dont be afraid to communicate your expectations and talk about it with your mate. After that, decide your next steps but at least you have been open and honest about your thoughts.  Thank you jdwilliamscoaching

There are so many different ways to building a stronger relationship but which way is the right way is the question. Experts would say improved communication is the answer and guess what they wouldn't been wrong. Having a relationship where communication is first and physical is second only makes the physical better. Knowing you partner better emotionally only makes your partnership better and your connection stronger. Be patient and learn your partner like you learn your phone and a better relationship you will have. Thank you jdwilliamscoaching