Being transparent about your past personal trauma is the hardest thing to do when you're in a relationship. Sometimes expressing your pain, anger, and anxiety is a scary thing to do. Trying to explain to your partner about what you experienced is the hardest thing to do because they may not understand. Talking about the things that you have lived through with anyone is eventually necessary in a relationship to form a true connection. The main reason why some people may find talking about past trauma difficult to do is because sometimes people are not offering a safe space to be open about past hurt. Sometimes people use that information against you or want to judge you on what happened. Sometimes people are not as empathetic to their partner's as they need to be and that is a mistake. It can cause lots of miscommunications, lack of trust, and a loss of emotional connection with your partner. It is important for your relationship growth to know the person your with inside and out. If they tell you about there past, allow them to speak freely and openly without judgement. Protect their heart and be compassionate about their feelings. What you will gain is more valuable than what you would lose, which is trust, communication, love, and possibly the relationship.
Thank you,
JDWILLIAMSCOACHING
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