Understanding Me

Sometimes it may feel like you are speaking a different language when it comes to your partner understanding what you really are trying to say. You may shake your head at them and look at them funny because they are staring back at you with a confused look on their face. While you're just standing there wondering why you even said anything in the first place. The reason why you said something is that you want and need to have an open dialogue with your partner. Sometimes when we try to have those types of conversations, we never consider if this is the right time and place to have the conversation. Timing, believe it or not, is everything in communication if you want to get your true message across the communication lines. More misunderstanding happens when we try to force a conversation to happen instead of structuring the more important conversations. Don't get me wrong, some conversations can be had over the phone or even video but never have conversations in text messages. Text messages is the absolute worst way to truly be heard by your partner or anyone. A lot of things can be taken the wrong way in a text message. Then, you have to spend more time correcting the misunderstanding. Understanding where a person is coming from is not always an easy process, but it can be done. You have to teach yourself to be patient, thoughtful, empathic, and non judgmental. These are the basic steps. The REAL key is your timing of the really important conversations. Consider yourself and the other person when selecting a time to talk. The conversation will usually be a lot easier and increases the likelihood of your full message being heard.

Thank you,

JDWILLIAMSCOACHING

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