WHAT'S MY WHY FOR GETTING MARRIED?

What's your why for wanting to get married? Is that why a good enough reason to start and grow your relationship? What is your strategy for maintaining the love and connection in your relationship? Can that strategy be evolved as life happens to your relationship? Is just because you love the person you're with the only reason you want to get married? If love is your primary reason and you some strong reservations about specific parts of your relationship, than now is the time to get to work. Even the smallest of issues or concerns are valid when you're talking about building a lifetime together with someone. You have to decide whether the concerns are big enough to move forward or to stop. No one wants to tell the person that they love that, I don't think we are ready to be married. It takes alot of courage to stand up and say I truly want what's best for the both of us. That could mean not getting married right now or not getting married at all. I realize that is hard to hear and to think about but you have to consider that the habits you take into marriage, may or may not change. If these habits are a general concern for you, ask yourself do you really want to gamble your mental health, financial health, spiritual health and physical health on that gamble. Essentially that's what's at stake if you're wrong about the choice that you want to make. That's why whatever your why is for getting married has to be more than I love the person and you think they would make a good partner. Your why has to be something that you know that you would gamble your future on. If you don't know, consider a really good pre marital program to help you talk about the things that concern you. And after completing your program, you will have more of an idea if you want to move forward or not.

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